Mommy’s Anger Management Tips

Have you ever said some things you wished you never said at all to your kids? Or in other words, you lose temper and yelled at your kids? OMG! I think you’re not human if you didn’t have a moment like that even just for once. A mommy’s job is a really tough job. You can have bad days too.

It’s natural to be angry. But if you get angry on every simple thing all the time, there is something wrong with you. If you lose your temper easily, this is a sign that you are undergoing some stress, depression, or anxiety. You have to address the root of your “losing control actions” before you could physically hurt your precious child.

Try to ask yourself:

“Why am I so angry”?

“Why do I easily get irritated?”

“Why am I in a bad mood all the time?

Then, figure out the reasons:

• Did you get a good night sleep?
  

If you didn’t get enough sleep last night, this really affects your mood for the next day. Make it a habit to sleep before 10:00pm if possible to get a complete 8 hour sound sleep. This will prevent crankiness during the day. If you still feel sleepy during the day, you can take a nap so you can recharge a bit. When you lack sleep and energy, people cannot think right and normally lose temper easily. So, you should know how take care of yourself for sure. Have an adequate sleep at night. Listen to instrumental music 45 minutes before you go to bed. This will help your mind relax and set you to the sleeping mode.

• Are you stressed financially or personally?
  

Stress can destroy a lot of things like family and yourself. Try to pamper yourself. Relax in your hot tub with some calm scents around you and lovely music to set a peaceful mood. This will help your mind think better and you’ll feel good. Don’t let stress take control over your life.

• Are you sick? 

An illness can drive you away from being nice sometimes. So, eat healthy food and drink a lot of water. You don’t want your kids to suffer when you’re sick. If mommy is sick, the family’s entire world slows down too because most of the things in the house are mommy’s duties, right? Try not to be sick; get the proper nutrition.

• Are you hungry?
  

A hungry stomach do not recognize anybody. So, whoever is in the way will not be happy facing the hot temper of hungry momma. So, eat at the right time. Don’t wait ‘til you’re starving before you get something to eat.

Now that you have figured out the reason of your lost temper, you can learn how to handle or cool down your anger. Here are tips on how to manage anger for moms:

1.    Examine yourself

After you yelled at your child, is this the real thing you want him or her to experience? Are you setting a good example? Take a time out and think. If you don’t want others to say it to you, you might not say it to your kids as well.

2.   Sing the Alphabet

When you feel like getting angry, try to sing the ABC song. This sounds ridiculous but it’s a good way to keep you calm and not to lose temper. When you finish the song, there will be no sense in getting angry anymore because you cooled down already by then. Try to practice to stay calm. It won’t be easy but practice will make it better as they say.

3.   Walk your anger

You should take a good walking exercise while talking to yourself. This will release some anger but will not hurt anybody. This will give you a moment away from the kids for a while.

4.   Go on a date with your Husband

Give time for you and your husband once in a while. This is a getaway from your kids for the meantime. You can entrust your kids to a friend anyway you’ll just be gone for a few hour in the night. This will relax you as a couple.

5.   Practice Meditation

Meditation is a good way to relax and combat negative emotions.

You can also divert your attention to distant learning to make yourself busy. You need to help yourself. Don’t blame everything to your kids, they are just kids. Your anger did not come out just right there and then it was an accumulation of all negative vibes. So, figure out and solve your issues to avoid yelling at the kids. After all, if you won’t get angry anymore you will feel better and kids will be happier too. Your kids will only be young once so just have extra patience, love, and care to have a happy family.

Tips for Moms to encourage Children to eat Healthy Foods

Feeding kids healthy food has been a battle for most parents. Most kids nowadays only like to eat meat and sweets. The word vegetable is not it their vocabulary. If you want your children to be strong and healthy, you need to feed them healthy too.

Here are my Tips for Mom’s who want to get their Kids to eat Healthy Food:

Start Young

When your child can start to eat solid foods, start feeding him or her with vegetables. Starting young is good because how do you expect a kid to eat something he or she was not used to in the first place. Cook your kid’s food. Boil carrots, potatoes, or squash and smash them. You can also chop broccoli, green beans, or cabbage into very small pieces and add it to rice porridge. You can add chicken broth to add flavor. When your child eats these foods on his or her early age, they will be familiarized with the taste and will not reject it as they grow older.

Be a Role Model

When your kid is growing older, he or she observes what’s going on around. So, it would be good to set a good example by eating the same food you are feeding him or her. Tell him or her that you will let him or her eat something that you won’t eat yourself. And tell him or her that you won’t give him or her anything that doesn’t taste good because if the taste is awful, you yourself won’t eat it. Then challenge him or her to taste and then say: “see it’s not that bad, right?” Congratulate him or her because he or she did a good job. This will make him or her feel it’s a good thing to eat vegetables.

Incentives

Tell your kid that when he or she eats his or her vegetable, you’re going to the playground, or watch a movie, or buy him a book in the weekend. Giving an incentive will make him or her be encouraged more. He or she has something to look forward.

Make them be Part of it

When your child is old enough to help you in the kitchen, it is advisable to encourage the kid to be part of the food preparation. Let him or her wash the vegetable, or cut the vegetable, or stir. When they do this, they will have a sense of accomplishment and be proud to show to others that they were part of the cooking. Most likely they will eat what they’ve prepared. You can also show them how to plant those vegetables if you have a garden. Let them plant a seed, then water it. When it’s harvest time, let them help you pick the vegetables that are ready to cook.

Fun Shapes

Kids will enjoy if you cut your vegetables with captivating shapes. For example: cut your carrots like a flower or potatoes into triangles. You can also make happy faces. Make it interesting. While cutting the vegetables, tell them its nutritional values so they will understand why they need to eat those. You can learn how to be a nutritionist so you can know more about the food you’re feeding your kids.

Give interesting Names

Name the veggies in a fun way. Call the broccoli mini trees, the carrot snowman’s nose, the green peas’ green magic balls, and the swash brother of pumpkin. Try to invent names that will make them remember. When they get to eat the broccoli, they may say: “Oh, the leaves of the mini tree are gone”.

Mix the Food

If they are not brave enough to eat the vegetable as is, try mixing the veggies with other stuff. For example: make fried rice by adding chopped carrots, green beans, and pea. To make it taste better, mix 1 egg into the fried rice. You can also make beef broccoli. The sauce will be added to the broccoli so, it will taste the same. Add more vegetables into your egg roll. When they dip it to the sauce they won’t notice it anymore.

Feed your kids healthy food. Stop feeding your children with processed foods, or food from fast foods. They are not really nutritious. Eat together as a family so you can monitor what they are eating. Feed your kids the right food. I started my daughter early, so I have no problem with her eating healthy food. I am a proud mom.

 

 

 

 

Raising Smart Children: How to help them Develop their Brains

Having a smart kid doesn’t just happen because of genes. I believe it’s more attained through vigorous effort and love. Start early. When I was still pregnant with my daughter, I started talking to her while touching my belly. As an excited mom, I did my best to make her feel me and understand me. And when she came out to this world, I hung posters of different shapes and colors, numbers, and the alphabet. She saw those everyday as she grew up. And I think it became familiar to her. I constantly tell her that I love her.

Here are some more tips to help you raise a smart kid:

1.    Interaction plays a big role.

Be your child’s playmate. Give the attention that he or she needs. Include cuddling, hugging, and kissing while playing because this will develop the foundation of his brain to higher thinking skills.

2.   Constantly talk to your child.

This will develop your child’s strong language skills. Learn to listen also to whatever your kids say. This will help his or her communication skills and will boost self confidence. Know how to appreciate what they are doing.

3.   Reading to your child.

Reading a book will help your kid understand words. It is most likely that your child will develop a passion in reading when he or she grows up, be a good student, and be a successful adult someday. You can also tell funny stories when they are young. They will remember it and it’s your bonding time too. Reading is the most significant activity to make your child smart.

 4.   Give the Freedom to play.

Through playing, your child will experiment, explore, and experience. This will be the foundation of his or her physical, social, intellectual, and emotional skills. Try to buy toys that are challenging; something that will make him or her figure out things. It is an exercise of the brain.

 5.   Encourage your Child to exercise.

When the body is strong, the brain can function better. Exercise increase blood flow to the brain and develops new brain cells.

6.   Music is Very important to Kid’s Life.

Children who listen to music will enhance their attention span, memory, learning, and motivation skills. It helps them cope up with stress. Yes, kids also experience stress not only adults. If you can get your kid to learn a musical instrument, it has a good effect on their brain’s proportional thinking and spatial temporal reasoning which will be beneficial for abstract Math.

7.   Be a Role Model

When your child sees you do good things, they learn through adult behavior. So, by engaging yourself to good hobbies like drawing, reading, writing, dancing, singing, and other creative things, you are setting his or her mind to imitate you and in the end it will make your kid smart.

8.  Not too much TV viewing

Young kids lower than 2 years old should not be watching TV. Even for older kids, TV viewing will take him or her away from activities that will develop that brain such as socializing, reading books, and playing. And sometimes, the TV is very influential. They imitate a lot from the TV.

9.   Smart Computer Games

Pick computer games that will teach your kids about Math, letter, animals, music, and sports. This will develop his hand-eye coordination as preparation for the innovative technology. This is learning while playing and this is the best way for a kid to learn because he or she is having fun. Anything that is fun will last in their mind.

10.  Good Nutrition.

Feeding your child a balance diet will make him or her develop a healthy mind and body. Nutrition should start while you’re pregnant to make things all right.

Now, that you know how to raise a smart kid I hope you’ll do your best. You can have an early childhood education degree to help you better in developing your child’s brain. In addition to all of those, love and care plus close monitoring of your kids will make a difference. Give your best and God will do the rest.

  

 

Yvonne: My Living Trophy, My Reward from God

In this life, it was not always easy for me. A lot of hardships and trials had been thrown to me in the past. I’ve been a single parent for over 6 years and I tell you, it was really difficult. To think of our finances, our daily expenses, on how to get by, the problems with my business, my hurting feelings and of course the well being of my only daughter filled up my mind. As if, everything is a mess in my life. I was sad and bitter every day, all day.

Good that I have a daughter. I diverted most of my time to Yvonne. When she was still a baby, I taught her how to count from 1-10, sing the alphabet, and point on the parts of her body. As soon as she started to talk, she already knew all that I’ve taught her. Fantastic! People were amazed by her smartness.

I also taught her how to introduce herself like a beauty contestant when she was only 1 year old and 7 months. I put her on top of the table and there she entertained people seeing her recite that long introduction of herself with facial expressions and with actions. She never baby talked. Her words were very clear. That was so cute of her. She didn’t like Barbie dolls, or stuffed toys. She liked those toys that will make her mind think such as the jigsaw puzzle. I still remember, I bought her a jigsaw puzzle with a picture of a chick coming out of its shell. When she played with it, she wanted the picture to be upside down. And that’s how she completed the puzzle. It was really awesome!

We were surprised when she was 4 years old. One time, we were in Western Union to get the money sent by my sister and beside it was the pawnshop. I and my mom were busy talking to a lady and suddenly, Yvonne stood up and went closer to a sign, pointed at it, and started to read them on her own. The security guard was really surprised! When she started to go to school, her teachers noticed her for memorizing things easier than other children.

One of her teachers told me, she picked Yvonne to recite the tribute to the parent’s speech for their up coming nursery graduation day. I was nervous because I never let her memorize 1 long paper to be recited in front of a crowd. Every time we waited for the bus, I said 1 sentence and let her follow after me and challenged her if she can do it. And she did! And she wanted more. So, the sentence became per paragraph until it became everything. She was motivated by an ice cream, or chocolate. When she can memorize the sentence I say per day and add the previous sentence to the new one each day, she gets a token until we finish the whole page. She delivered the speech very well that day and I had tears after hearing her. I heard parents saying, whose daughter is that? I just smiled and deep inside I said “I am the proud mom”.

The school principal chose her to be the school representative to compete in a declamation contest. I was hesitant at first because it’s a school competition with other schools in our zone. The principal said she has the potential of becoming a good public speaker. On the zone meet day, there were 12 contestants and she was the youngest being 7 years old (1^st grader). We practiced her at home. I helped her with the memorization, facial expression, drama, and actions. She was very confident with her deliverance. She was like a real actress with tears and feelings. She won the 3^rd place. Not bad because that was her first time to join a contest. The next year, the school wanted her again to represent the school. So, again she won. This time, she’s the 2^nd placer. The school liked her so much and she became a popular student and I became the popular mom. On her 3^rd grade, she was the contestant again for the school. And finally, she got the 1^st place. She was the champion in the Declamation contest out of 21 champions from different schools in our province. Can you believe that? Everybody was celebrating. The school hung a big poster size picture of her in front of the school being proud that she was the winner. They called her the best actress of the town. I and my daughter were so famous in that area at that time.

She is already on her 7^th grade and she’s still doing well. She works on her homework alone. She’s a very responsible kid. She’s in the honor roll and got a President’s award last year. I came to realized that I am not a loser because I have my daughter. She is my living trophy for overcoming all those troubles in my life. God rewarded me with a talented and loving daughter like her. I am so proud to be her mother. I can’t imagine myself how could I ever surpass those obnoxious moments of my life without her. She was there when I was melting. When her dad left us, she was just at the age of 5.  She told me: “stop crying mama, don’t worry I’m still here for you. I will never leave you”. That really touched my heart.

After all that I’ve been through, it’s not my lost because I have my daughter in my life. She made me strong. And I am a better person now. She is God’s gift to me that I will treasure for the rest of my life. Being her mom, is like having the top career in this world. I love you Yvonne, my living trophy.